January 29, 2017 by thewashingteenian
By Marinia Powell, Staff Reporter and Senior Staff Photographer
Teen romance is highly publicized and, in some cases, overly so. Although there isn’t anything wrong with it, it can make the rest of us feel, well, alone. The teen love/first love thing can put pressure on some people who feel like they’ll die alone as they watch all the TV characters and personal friends go out and have first kisses as they sit alone.
Sometimes it can even put pressure on people to go out with someone they don’t actually like. I’ve had to catch myself, or even been caught before, almost going out with someone I had nothing in common with or wanted to go out with me for the wrong reason. But as I sit on the couch watching my favorite shows and seeing romances form between characters, or reading a book where the relationship of my dreams is played out like a reality, I can’t help but feel like I’ll never have one of my own. This can be especially hard for people in the LGBTQ+ community because the large majority of relationships depicted involve straight people.
But I’ve realized something; I don’t particularly need anyone like that in my life right now. Of course I want to be in a relationship someday, but so little of my life has been played out that I shouldn’t be thinking about dying alone. And although you should always keep in mind how much you actually have in common with someone, that doesn’t mean you only have to date people on your level. It means you need to wait for the right person.
What if you’re midway through your night out when you learn that your date routinely make fun of your favorite things and try to make you see it their way, no choices? And if you don’t know what you want in a person? Then maybe you should stand back and figure that out. Although you shouldn’t write an entire page of your diary on what your dream mate is, come up with the basic things you find attractive.
For instance, say you couldn’t hang out with someone who couldn’t make you laugh, or someone who wasn’t up for trying something new? It’s not a crime to gather information on someone before going out with them. Maybe monitor their speech to see if they talk about themselves a bit too much? Or crack a few jokes to see if you have the same sense of humor? Or maybe ask them what their favorite and least favorite things are?
And once again, if you don’t find anyone interesting enough or interested in you enough, then save the questions for another day, because there is someone out there waiting for you, you just need to be patient. Plus, as everyone is getting dates left and right and you’re not, it’s not anything bad. It just means that maybe you’re a little more of an acquired taste, so when you find someone with that taste, it’s all the more likely to be much more fulfilling.